Worry, is that what comes with having kids? Or is that comes just in being a woman?
Well I used to worry about how good I looked when went out, or if I was going to be accepted by the others, if people was going to like me or not. Today my worry is much more important, I worry if my Oldest son loves his little brother : (
Yes, it has been hard times to me with Rafael (2.4 years old). Every single time he looks to Gabe (9 months old) he has this anger kind of face and it always comes with a slap on Gabe's head or face or even a kick.
I ask him if he likes his brother and he says " NO!" and even on his voice I can see anger. I know he is only little and doesn't understand lots of things, probably have no idea what love is.
I try my best to be a good mum and sometimes it is so hard, the patience just is not there anymore specially days I am tired because I didn't have a good night or I am just tired for any other reason.
I will be trying the corner punishment to see if I can help him to understand that hitting his little brother is not a way to get anything, but being nice and a good boy it is!
I am sure it shouldn't be easy being a big brother and having someone taking all the attention that was once all his and I will never know as I am the youngest of three girls.
One thing I know that helps lots and lots, is giving cuddles. He has been more affectionate lately, all the time he wants cuddles from me and I have been trying to give as much as he needs or more.
I wish I had an answer for every single question I have in my head but I am afraid I don't. I think some things just comes with time and experience but then you think, well I will learn how to deal with that and I stop and thing again, wait a minute, I needed to learn that before, to deal with the firs child's jealousy because now I have the second child and I am not going for thirds, so when am I going to apply again what I am learning from it?
xxxx
Karina
A Mum of Two Boys
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